Thursday August 7th 2025
Local Coach, Kate Flory
This article has been written by local coach Kate Flory
Sometimes I just can’t be bothered.
That’s the honest truth. Some days it feels hard just getting out of bed and starting the day with a smile on my face, sometimes, but not often. With the last few days of the school holidays looming, that feeling of rush (I’ve still not got the school uniform), and relief (yippee – back to a normal working routine) has me feeling exhausted, all before my morning cuppa. We are creatures of habit and routine, and as soon as we are subject to new working patterns and homelife demands, we can find it more of a struggle to be motivated.
When I look around, I know everyone has their off days and their high days. We all have our own personal baseline of contentedness or calm or happiness, our own measure of ‘when we feel just right’. What I’ve learnt over the years as a coach, is that we all name our baselines differently, just as we individually strive for different
things. Understanding what is important to you is the first step to being able to measure and then make changes along the way. So, feeling ‘on top of things’ may be important for me, but for someone else it could be ‘being happy’, or ‘tidy’, ‘or busy’.
Now throw in the fact that sometimes we can have seemingly conflicting goals. For instance, one of mine is around Balance (being in tune with what my body, my mind, my heart, my family and my friends need), and another is around Growth (growing my business with ‘magical momentum’). These two can vie with each other, and can also keep each other in check, but the noise can be quite deafening, as they try and make themselves heard.
When we experience the pressure of school holidays (even when we don’t have kids), our own routines, personal goals all together, it’s no wonder there are days at a time when we don’t feel motivated and really can’t be bothered. Here are some of things that help me out during these ‘cant’ be bothered’ days:
– I make tomorrow a new day, and rather than beat myself up for ‘failing’ today, I give myself a break and start again.
– I ask myself, usually my body, ‘what does it really need right now?’ Sometimes ‘a change is as a good as a rest’, so I listen to what rest I require.
– I go back to my ‘why’, reminding myself why I’m doing this all in the first place, and what was my compelling reason.
– I remind myself how good I feel when I have successful done what I’m currently avoiding.
– Sometimes, I need to take a more extended break to allow myself to start missing it. For me, that helps separate what I really ‘want to do’ from what I think I ‘should be doing’.
– Setting a deadline works for me, and agreeing it with someone else helps me to stay accountable.
– Looking at the ‘rules’ I’ve set for myself I give myself permission to revise them, make them current for the ‘now’, which helps me reconnect to my why again.
– And finally, I give myself permission to be human.
It’s only when our ‘can’t be bothered’ has a wider impact on us and those around us, do we need to ask for help and look at the patterns of behaviours that are getting in our way. But remember, motivation comes and goes for most of us, something which is totally normal and all within our control to change.
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